Yes, you read the title correctly -- I am proud to be a prude! I do not get offended when being called one for various reasons but first I will tell y'all what prompted me to blog about this.
Two weekends ago I went to watch the latest Twilight movie. Okay, I'll give you a couple of seconds to voice your opinion of this. Go ahead. Out of our system? Okay, I'll give you two more seconds. Done? Okay, so, I should first say that I went because a) mom's a big Peter Facinelli fan and b) I was curious to see how it compared to the book. I read the entire series two years ago so the curiosity got the best of me. I also wanted to be able to contribute to the whole debate on whether Breaking Dawn was pro-life or "anti-life" and I can't do that if I didn't have proof to back it up. Since I had read the books, I knew there were parts I would not be entirely psyched to see. Watching the sex scenes with your mom is awkward enough but I actually looked away during those parts because I had an idea of how they would play out. It's not the first time I've done this.
I will be the first to admit that I will look away during these scenes. My friends who have gone to the movies with me will attest to this. One of my guy friends even (jokingly) puts his hands over my eyes when any PDA is shown on the screen. I'm okay with the kissing as long as it doesn't go too far but as soon as clothes start coming off and/or we see things going that way, I look away. It's something that I've done since I was little (my parents would change the channel or ask me to cover my eyes) and it's something that I've continued to do even though I am 26 years-old. I just feel that it's something that I can do without seeing.
I know that I have an active imagination (which can be a blessing or a curse) and a good memory and I also know that things I can't un-see will undoubtedly replay in my head a couple of times before it moves on to something else. To avoid any sinning in the future, I've opted to use this (looking away) as a way to make sure that I don't have anything extra to confess. Also, I know it's fiction but it feels like an invasion of privacy to watch two characters in an intimate act. To be completely honest, I know I am too innocent when it comes to these things and I'd love to keep that about myself for as long as I possibly can.
I've been called a prude by a professor (to my face, in front of the entire class) before. Of course, she "excused" herself about talking about pornography (quite explicitly) to the "prude" in class which would've embarrassed me if I weren't proud to be one. I have no problem with sex within a marriage, the purpose of sex (which is for procreation) or anything like that but I do feel like when it's shown for "entertainment" purposes that it's unnecessary. Theology of the Body? Awesome. Having sex scenes to make a movie or book more interesting? Lame. Seriously? If you can't make anything without having sex in it to keep the audience's attention then it probably isn't that good to begin with and thus not worth my time. Now, if you enjoy this well... to each their own. Personally, I just don't see the purpose of having it to make things "more interesting." As I said, I think it would be easier to sin by having lustful thoughts after watching such things but maybe that's just me.
So, for those of you who have recently called me a prude for "not acting like an adult" by refusing to watch sex scenes -- THANK YOU! I will proudly take that as a compliment. I would've gone deeper into this subject but I have two finals to complete tonight, as well as a trip to a local parish for confession in an hour, so it'll have to wait in case this topic ever comes back again... which it might considering a recent article about how the problem of pornography has gotten worse amongst Catholic men. Considering that I have an update on my music purge coming up for Monday (which will be scheduled since I will not be home) I might touch on this subject again.
Anyway, I have to go examine my conscience and then drive to the parish before I can start my finals so I should stop writing. :)
I hope y'all have a great start of Advent. I might have something written for tomorrow but I am not 100% sure. If I can't complete one of my finals tonight, I might have to spend tomorrow finishing it and will therefore not have time to blog. Either way, have a good Sunday and hope the new translation doesn't trip y'all too badly. ;)
As always, thanks for reading and God bless! :D