tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post1562746029452052540..comments2024-01-05T06:37:11.773-08:00Comments on Journey of a Catholic Nerd Writer: Why I'm Not Ashamed to CryMelissa Ceciliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14093144784715438143noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-50484993454453009602015-11-02T21:09:24.888-08:002015-11-02T21:09:24.888-08:00Thanks, Marcus! Thanks, Marcus! Melissa Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14093144784715438143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-33001334487159275082015-10-25T19:40:25.085-07:002015-10-25T19:40:25.085-07:00A great post. I don't cry, but I don't loo...A great post. I don't cry, but I don't look down upon those who do- and honestly I envy them a bit. There are many signs of weakness, but I don't think of tears as such a thing. Crying merely shows depth of feeling. It's hard to imagine staying on top of a grad school schedule together with the aftermath of a car wreck. I pray you recover soon. Wayfarerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10646599410917498805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-86483810439582366272015-10-25T17:08:49.231-07:002015-10-25T17:08:49.231-07:00Thanks, AnneMarie! And, yes! Guys have it worse th...Thanks, AnneMarie! And, yes! Guys have it worse than we do. Thank you for your prayers; you're in mine as well. :DMelissa Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14093144784715438143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-11931782968124626122015-10-25T16:59:22.930-07:002015-10-25T16:59:22.930-07:00Wow, you are awesome! Seriously! I think it's ...Wow, you are awesome! Seriously! I think it's so cool that you are unashamed to cry and admit weakness-I think, in our communities and culture in general, we need to be more OK with this. Crying is really cathartic, but it always ticks me off when some people (like men, in particular) don't feel that they can cry because of the way that the surrounding culture sees it. Hang in there! You continue to be in my prayers. AnneMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13462442204217572325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-43901361790001405652015-10-25T16:14:53.795-07:002015-10-25T16:14:53.795-07:00Hi Christopher,
I think you may new to blog (wel...Hi Christopher, <br /><br />I think you may new to blog (welcome!) but, um, well... not quite. What you read on my blog is exactly what I'm thinking and feeling; there was no hidden meaning nor hints. I wrote that I cried due to the stress because that's exactly why I cried -- it was just too much at once and the stress overwhelmed me. It wasn't because life would never be the same; I know that life is constantly changing and nothing can be duplicated exactly the same. I honestly don't feel scarred from my accident -- emotionally, psychologically, or (thankfully) physically. If anything, it's made me feel stronger in those areas as well as in my faith and trust in God. <br /><br />I'm very sorry for the loss of your dog. I've never had a pet but I've seen the sorrow my friends carry after the death of their beloved animals. <br /><br />Again, thank you for your words but I can assure you that I did not cry because of the incident or because things will never be the same. I cried because of the stress of the time constraint. I'm very open and transparent with what I write so what you read is my reality. :)<br /><br />God bless.Melissa Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14093144784715438143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-79917892796531722732015-10-25T16:01:37.752-07:002015-10-25T16:01:37.752-07:00This seems extraordinarily trivial compared to you...This seems extraordinarily trivial compared to your experience, but when my 14 ½ year-old dog died last month I wept almost continuously for 2 days, then off and on for another 5 days—and I'm in my 60s!. I believe this was for a reason that you hint at in your post. A specific loss (my dog, your accident) can have a deeper meaning. For you, it means that your life in some ways never will be quite the same. One hopes that you will recover completely from your injuries, but there likely will be some residual effect for the rest of your life: perhaps as insignificant as a scar, yet it will be there. When my dog died, it was not just the loss of an animal companion (who primarily was my companion—because I fed her!). It also was the loss of the last daily ‘living’ connection with my now-adult children’s years growing up here at home. So it was as if a page in my life had been turned, just as a page in your life has been turned.<br />So we weep not only because of a painful incident. We also weep because, in some ways, life never will be the same. These losses that we will continue to experience throughout life remind us of our mortality and of the “Four Last Things” http://www.catholictradition.org/Classics/4last-things.htm . "You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you." (St. Augustine, “Confessions” http://www.newadvent.org/fathers/110101.htm )<br />Christopher Schaeferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00570532676719405077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-29071331800954797292015-10-25T10:47:26.575-07:002015-10-25T10:47:26.575-07:00Negative on the audiobooks. And, yeah, L.A. is ser...Negative on the audiobooks. And, yeah, L.A. is seriously spread out so it can take hours to get from point A to point B. Melissa Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14093144784715438143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-57443872099167009642015-10-25T06:04:12.492-07:002015-10-25T06:04:12.492-07:00The Rosary will help pass the time on the bus and ...The Rosary will help pass the time on the bus and give you patience/tranquility to deal with all of it. <br />I had no idea it was 3 hours one way! We don't have public transport where I live in Montana so I could never have imagined it taking that long! - Are any of your coursebooks available on audio? If so, that would probably be a big help.<br />Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613185904737469846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-28363350057657760272015-10-24T21:23:48.853-07:002015-10-24T21:23:48.853-07:00Amanda,
May I ask what you meant about the Rosary...Amanda,<br /><br />May I ask what you meant about the Rosary and public transportation? I'm not quite getting the connection there. Did you simply mean to pray it to pass the time or that it would help give me patience or...?<br /><br />Trust me, in L.A. a 20-25 minute car ride can last over 3 hours (one way!) using public transportation and that's time I can't afford to lose especially when I'm already so behind on my coursework.<br /><br />Melissa Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14093144784715438143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7738564385955889206.post-54848374808343052762015-10-24T18:20:18.997-07:002015-10-24T18:20:18.997-07:00Let me just tell you that you are amazing! Serious...Let me just tell you that you are amazing! Seriously. You have been through a lot, especially lately. There is no shame in crying. I always say that it takes a lot of strength to be able to cry when you need to, especially if that is in front of other people.<br /><br />I want to let you know that I'm praying for you. God will get you through this. <br />If you feel like you're wasting time on public transport, can I suggest that you pray the Rosary? Especially with this being the month of the Rosary, it can't hurt and Momma Mary will help you out.<br /><3 Hang in there!<br /><a href="http://catholicamanda.com" rel="nofollow">Amanda</a>Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613185904737469846noreply@blogger.com